Friendship I believe in one aspect consists of common ground along with subtle differences. After all, even if we conflicted with another based on the differences, we may view our friendship dull if the other person is extremely similar to us and provides little distinction. Also, there differences may eventually turn into some forms of truths for us, based on their experiences perhaps we come to new realizations and thus turns into even more common ground. If not, we may still respect our friends for their thoughtful differences even though we may disagree. Friendships may also be based on some unique feature of the other person, in whom we may look up to. Although I believe this can be a significant factor in friendships, I believe it usually does not need to be the main factor. For example, simply considering one a friend by hanging out with him or her and using academic intelligence as the main factor by means of looking up to him or her is not the basis for a strong friendship in my opinion. Of course the word strong can be vague, so I assume the word here refers to a higher levels of happiness (happiness is vague as well, but I mean to a distinction between short term pleasures and long term happiness) in establishing a friendship in the first place.
The Essay on Friendship: Difference and Heather Personalities
Friendship is a bond between two people. Friendships can change over. Their similarities and differences affect this bond. In the novel Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson, Melinda and Heather had changes in their friendship because of their personalities and other things happening around them. The personalities of Melinda and heather have things in common but also have differences. Melinda and ...
Sure one and an “intelligent” friend may have certain moments together that the persons cherishes and uses this as a basis for establishing a friendship for example, but if those moments occur infrequently and small talk is often the case, then perhaps they are not really a friend. Also to take into consideration is if the friendship is made based on self image; that is how a person will look at other point of view when he or she is socializing with the “intelligent” friend for example. Perhaps it is to impress another, such as girl for feelings of lust or to potentially gain admission to a group of students that are highly appraised in school (although that doesn’t mean they are necessarily the happiest).
Friendship may also be confused as a gateway to lust, our emotions may tell us that we would like to get to know a person for a relationship because there would be some sort of social connection between ourselves or them, when in reality our minds may tell us, say if we ponder on it for longer then what are emotions instantly tell us at times, that we are only attempting to socialize with the person because of their physical features, and hence sexual relations and then after comes the other reward of this social connection, after we have determined they are worth talking to because of their physical features, instead of doing so vice versa. Of course sometimes we may get lonely and physical attraction is only part of the course but the order has changed; we determine if we like their characteristics first rather than determine if we like their physical attributes first and then determine whether we like their characteristics. That is not to say that physical attraction will solve all since a bland character in one eyes although attractive is not worth investing time in; rather I am referring to the order in which it may occur. I find it interesting of this order and pondered on why physical attraction does wonders for establishing new and wonderful connections, when I have personally tried to do so vice versa, but sadly does not seem to work for me at least or rather my chances have not been successful.
The Essay on Midsummer: Mind and Impulsiveness Physical Attraction
The story’s plot (if there is any) was light. It was just about a guy (Manong) who took care of a bull and eventually met a girl (Aning) on the road. It was obvious that Manong was attracted to Aning mainly because of her figure, “The underpart of her arm is while and smooth…And her hair is thick and black.” The bull in the story served as a connection of the two persons. It was like in Chekhov’s ...
In fact, a former classmate of mine I once asked about this girl he liked in which I stated something similar to this: If this girl was physically unattractive in your eyes, would you have tried to even communicate with her by sitting closer to her in class?” His answer was no, but he was glad he met her because they communicated with each other well. Of course this is just one example, but there could be many other examples as well, perhaps it just something to ponder on. I believe this order of physical attraction first is the result of to some extent, selective perception in which we choose what we want to do perhaps based on our emotions which are hard to control at times and ignore other reasons. Eventually if we keep using the order of physical attraction first and then social features, then our chances will increase of meeting someone where these features meet in this order. This too can apply to friendships as well, not just relationships. Also that is not to say that two people who greatly connect on a social level despite finding one or the other unattractive is not possible, rather physical attraction may be the gateway to these communications one finds to be desirable and the same might even be said vice versa as well.
To conclude, I believe one may use the order of physical attraction first, or perhaps enhancement of oneself by using others or it could be simply be attempting to establish a friendship with another, whether just friends or a relationship as a way not for physical appearance at first, but an attempt to perhaps find even greater happiness for such longing communication. That longing for someone that one finds I believe is generally not as an end result of lustful desires, even though it may be initially at first, but it must be hand in hand with good communication and thus physical attraction could be a starting point rather than the main point. Sometimes we may never give others a chance to develop and see if we can establish them as friends, rather we look towards the fleshly appealing beings at times and hope they have some form of socialization to offer us; wanting the best of both worlds instead of just having the best of one world; communication (although I believe this applies more to a relationship with another than a friendship), or perhaps we don’t even care much for communication at first but want to satisfy our sexual desires. Or as feelings of sexual desires continue, we continue to pursue them and communicate with them and then come to a realization that we actually enjoy their conversations with us, and moreover these moments have triumphed over the issue (or least shrinks) of lust (Funny how it works out you get rewarded for pursing a physically attractive person at times and somehow seem to socially connect with them rather than communicating and connecting with them paying little to no attention to physical features, but then again if we keep doing this process of physical attraction first and connections second our whole lives then chances will increase for this order in meeting the right people).
The Essay on “Teenagers need to take into account important issues in order for a relationship to flourish.”
Discuss the statement above with reference to two poems you have studied on the theme “Relationship.” There are several important issues that teenagers need to consider seriously when being involved in a relationship. Issues such as having honest open communication and dialogue, understanding one another, not being judgemental, knowing and loving each other are important elements in ...
Later on though as we enjoy their communication we may tend to like them more and thus accept or mold feelings for them that will shape our perspective into thinking they are more attractive than before. Bottom line for most part is that communication is the main key for establishing friendships and relationships but sometimes an order may be present for both of them, in which physical features is not the dominating factor, but may be supplemental nevertheless. These of course are not all of the reasons for establishing friendships, just some in my opinion and will not apply to all foundations of a friendship or relationship.
