1. Summary of The man who rocks the cradle
In the article “The man who rocks the cradle” we meet Simon and Elos who both have two-year olds. They have joined the government’s Sure Start scheme. But an hour and a quarter into the sitting, Simon and Elos are the only fathers who have turned up.
Even though the government has introduced paid paternity leave and other paternal rights Professor Charlie Lewis, a social psychologist, does not see the an immense revolution in equality of parenting occurring. It is mostly tokenism rather than society actually changing. We also have to consider that the financial situation in a family plays a part says Carena Rogers. Also reluctance from employers is an impediment speculates Alexandra Jones.
Ranking high in paternal care is Denmark. Lasse Nylander believes that Britain is more traditional. His own father was absent and he reflected on that. His wife Rikke is more pragmatic; the relationships that last are the ones that split parenting 50:50.
2. Outline of the three texts The man who rocks the cradle, Parenting: From Boys To Men To Fatherhood and As the family goes, so goes society.
All three articles deal with parenting. The first two are about fatherhood where as the third is about the breakdown of a whole family and its affect on society.
– The article “The man who rocks the cradle” is about parenting more specific paternity leave. We are introduced to real life parents and also experts’ opinion. The observation is that even though the government has introduced paternity leave only over a third men exercise this opportunity to spend time with their children. Some of the explanation to why this is is to be found in financial status in a family and also in companies and employers opposing.
David Martinez Professor S. Gates English 1 A June 20, 2001 The Three Wise Men. I remember growing up for part of my child hood living in Mexico City. I was about 4 years old when I moved to Mexico to live close to my grand parents and other relatives. In Mexico City there is a fairy tale tradition that is still practice these days. The fairy tale tradition is that of (Los Tres Reyes Mags) The ...
– “Parenting: From Boys To Men To Fatherhood” is an article which deals with the fact that fatherless African-American boys are more liable to become criminals. Amos Johnson III grew up having issues with his father and was heading down the wrong road but now as an adult he teaches courses that help boys “To Quench the Father Wound.” Roland Warren had an absent father. Even though he had a good relationship with his stepdad, he still felt like something was missing. He became father at a young age and admits that it was hard for him to give kisses and hugs. He is now president of The National Fatherhood Initiative teaching boys to become men to become fathers.
– In the article “As the family goes, so goes society” we are introduced to the problems of families falling apart. Children often end up with big issues such as emotional, intellectual and physical scars. Economically and social desirable values are often learned in a robust and secure family. Split families are the root of many of society’s social problems but also for the economic state because moral erodes when children adapt brutal principles of the street.
3. Comment on: “the breakdown of the family is at the root of nearly every social problem.”
The word nearly is important in this statement. It means that not all social problems are to be found in a family’s breakdown. The core of the family is mostly the primary socialization but we also have to consider the influence of secondary socialization by which I mean kindergarden teachers, school teachers, class mates, relatives and so on. TV and games have earlier not been considered but nowadays they too play a big role.
Nearly every is also important to pay attention to. It reflects that it is mainly the breakdown of a family that is responsible and not some other reason.
It is a little unclear what is meant by breakdown of a family. It can be defined in a numerous of ways. It can be physical by dividing the family where the parents separate or maybe divorce. Also physical abuse of a parent, a relative or a sibling comes to mind. It can be psychological separation like emotional distance, control, general abuse. It can also literally mean breakdown in the sense that there are more single parents.
... between parent and child is among the most important. Children need their parents for multiple reasons. Children need ... it’s because my dad is more boy type but my mom and I ... child without a father loses a type of understanding and guidance in life. Without a parent the child’s ... families develop and attachment relationship with their primary caretaker. Some don’t believe this, they assume that children ...
I do believe that the best way for children to grow up is with both parents given that it is in a healthy, supporting and living environment. If the parents are at war with each other every single day and a separation could settle the differences it could make a better life for the family. Also if abuse is occurring it may be necessary to separate.
In conclusion I do agree that disintegration of a family is an important factor when we look at social problems but stating it in fourteen letters is not specific enough, other important factors also affect our upbringing.
Do I also need my father?
Here in Denmark we women are used to maternity leave. It is important to our children and to us to establish the right connection. But what about the father? Does he not need to bond with his newborn, feel the blessing and hardships of being a parent? Maybe feeling insecure and scared but learning and developing? But if he wants to do this, are we women ready to give up some of our maternity leave?
Why not both?
Both the mother and the father are excited, scared, curious, nervous and hopeful. Bringing their newborn home and bonding with it is very important to the infant but also to the parents. It is rarely considered the mother not taking maternity leave. But the father also needs to spend time with his child to bond and to learn how to be a parent – on his own.
A father figure is important
Young boys need a good role model to look up to. A present and loving father is essential for a boy to have a good childhood and develop into an emotionally stable grown-up. Girls have a tendency to find a partner similar to their father and there for it is vital for the father to be in her life and affect her in a positive way. Father and child bonding at an early age heighten the chance of success. There for we women must encourage and support our men taking their paternity leave though it means that we have to give up some our own
Parents are an integral part of any child’s life. They are his safe haven, his stepping stones and his personal cheerleaders. They are the people who create a person in the first place hence he/she owes their existence to them (Laura, 11). They give a child his name, his characteristics and his personality. They also give him both his negative and positive traits. So, in my opinion it is a ...