I chose this particular topic because I have a friend that was in an abusive relationship. I
didn’t really understand why she stayed with him for so long. I first started suspecting
that she was being abused was when I was on the phone with her and heard him
screaming at her in the background. She yelled back and played it off like nothing was
wrong. She said usually he was a good guy, but merely had a bad day. I kept asking her
why she stayed with him and she always replied that she loved him. Fortunately, they
aren’t together anymore. She finally got tired of all the abuse and called my uncle who is
a police officer. He came over, made him pack all of his stuff, and informed him that if
he ever came back there would be more trouble than he could handle. Oddly enough, she
still says that she misses him. I can only imagine how much more complicated it would
be for a woman with children. In the literature, I expect to find that there are many more
women being abused than people really realize. I also expect to find that most women
stay because they are financially dependent, or they don’t want their children to grow up
without a father. Also, I’m assuming most women are scared for their lives if they
attempt to leave. To research my predictions I chose to read articles from Analyzing
Social Problems, The Journal of Marriage and Family, and The Journal of Interpersonal
The Essay on Why women stay in abusive relationships
... statements and think that the abuse is their fault. Your friend may stay in an abusive relationship ... gender roles can make it difficult for young women to admit to being sexually active and ... will help them, so they don’t report the abuse. Language Barriers/Immigration Status: If your friend is ... undocumented, they may fear that reporting the abuse will affect their immigration status. Also, if ...
Violence.
When people refer to the word violence, they usually don’t think of domestic violence.
However, domestic violence is a very serious form of abuse. According to the article
“Severity of Violence Against Women by Intimate Partners and Associate Abuse of
Alcohol and/or Illicit Drugs by the Perpetrator, a current or former intimate partner
physically and/or sexually assaults eight out of every 1,000 women” (Wilson 2000:996).
The National Crime Victimization Survey reveals that more than 1.8 million incidents of
violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend occur in America
each year, and about 85% of these victims are women (Greenfield et al. 1998).
While
people have heard that most assaults occur to women by their mates each year, few know
that men are also assaulted at home. Many of these assaults go unreported. The
relationship of alcohol to intimate partner violence remains significant in studies. Men’s
drinking patterns, especially binge drinking, are directly associated with marital violence
across all ethnic groups and social classes. The latest studies show that 1,800 murders
were committed by an intimate partner in 1996, with three out of four victims being
women (Wilson, 2000:997).
Violence is a learned trait that can by brought on by the
affects of alcohol. As I researched further, I learned about the Social Learning Theory in
the article, “Harsh Physical Discipline in Childhood and Violence in Later Romantic
Involvement; the Mediating Role of Problem Behaviors”. The Social Learning Theory
suggests that those who are subjected to harsh discipline learn that violence can be an
The Essay on Domestic Violence Women Victim Abuse
Domestic Violence What is battering? Why do men batter? Why do women stay? These are all questions that I will answer. I will also offer insight into the minds of victims that may help give a better understanding to the devastating cycle that hides behind the doors of many homes today that is better known as Domestic Violence. What is battering? Battering is a pattern of behavior that is used to ...
effective way to change behaviors of others. Harsh physical punishment in childhood is
directly related to greater perpetration of violence against an intimate partner late in life(
Swinford 2000: 508).
Children treated with such physical aggression learn that it is
permissible within the context of intimate relationships and that violence is justified
when someone is guilty of wrong doing. Research suggests that wives are more likely to
be victims of spousal abuse if they were subjected to severe physical discipline as a child
(Swinford, 2000: 510).
A family is considered the fundamental building block of society.
Whether or not that family has a negative or positive impact on society depends on their
actions. As described in the article, “Domestic violence: Hitting us Where We Live”, the
family has also been described as a cradle of violence and the marriage license as a
hitting license (Rouse 1997: 17).
Many frustrating events occur within the family and
outside frustrations can be carried over into and expressed within the family. After a bad
day at the office, family members become handy scapegoats for their anger. It gives the
abuser release and a certain power over their victim. One reason women and children are
targets for violence in the home is that misconduct towards them is not sufficiently costly
to the perpetrator and they are actually rewarded when the victim complies (Rouse 2000:
19).
Often, women are afraid to leave their abuser. They fear for their lives, and often
they become dependent, either financially or physically. There is an intense involvement
when a family is created. By leaving, the victim feels a sense of failure and a sense of
vulnerability.
There are many more women being abused than most people believe. What surprised me
was that many men are being abused as well. It’s not often talked about, but it should be
looked at equally because in either case people are being abused. Victims stay with their
abusers because they are mentally dependent, and afraid for their lives. Also, if children
are involved, they don’t want them to be without a father. Furthermore, learning about
The Essay on Domestic Violence 2 Children Abuse Victims
... the whole lives of many domestic violence victims, flashbacks of the times that they, or a loved one, were abused have caused ... of the companionship that the family should have provided for the child. The victims of domestic abuse learn to be the abuser ... to some form of domestic violence. Domestic violence often leads children to look for another form of family, the gang. The gang provides ...
the Social Learning Theory, we need to stop the violence before it becomes a pattern in
the family. If this behavior continues, an on-going cycle of violence could easily carry on
for generations to come.
