I have read a lot of statistics and personal testimonies about Domestic Violence situations. Most
of us know the patterns. Most of us are familiar with the statistics. Oftentimes statistics are only
numbers unless you or someone you know have become one and have lived that hell personally.
Many of us have, including myself. While we can, and should, do our part as individuals, and as
groups, to lobby for protection, for support, and for awareness, we also need to realize that, as
difficult as it may seem, each of us has been given free will. While it may seem the most difficult
thing to accept that we maintain some control of our destiny in most cases- especially after years
of being told otherwise- it is ultimately the most empowering realization. I know it was for me. As
a victim of the most extreme forms of physical and verbal domestic abuse for six years- having
been beaten bloody on a regular basis; having been raped and inhumanly tortured almost daily- I
came to a point where I knew that while I had support from friends and family, it was ultimately
me alone who would make the final decision to walk away from something that wasn’t right and
could no longer continue. That was probably the most difficult thing for me to do in my whole
life. I always believed that marriage is something you do not take lightly. I took the words “…till
The Essay on Statistics 3
Statistics are numbers or figures that have been measured and are used to reach a quantitative conclusion on a subject or event. For example: the literacy rate in Ethiopia right now is about 30%. By using this statistic, we come to the conclusion that the literacy rate is very low. However, in the process of stating that statistic, I was able to convince you that it is the right one. Therefore, ...
death do us part” literally up to that point. My children- whom I loved and cherished more than
anything in the world- were the product of this marriage. Up until I made this difficult decision, I
thought it was my duty to God, and to my family to continue things as they were. Until I realized
that “..till death do us part” took on a whole new meaning. If I had stayed this man would have
killed me. Each beating escalated to the point that I was convinced this man will end my life at
some point had I stayed. Imagine how I felt the day I decided that I needed to walk away for my
own safety and for the safety of my children. I didn’t sneak out of the house. I waited for the
father of my children to come home. I looked him in the face and told him I was leaving, and with
escorts, I did so with my children and ran for three years in fear. Today, I have attained the
financial stability to provide for my family after a long and hard road, and that far exceeds the
money my ex husband did not allow me to have in our marriage. Today, I am in a wonderful,
healthy relationship that made me realize that I wasn’t the problem all along as my ex husband told
me every time I was beaten bloody for offenses that were only unacceptable to him. I cannot
promise you financial success after you leave a marriage, nor will I tell you that leaving a marriage
or a relationship is the right thing to do in a particular case. But I will tell you that the cycle of
violence can end with you and with those whom you allow to help you should you find yourself
trapped in an abusive relationship. From the time I said “I do”, I fell under the umbrella of
statistics that show that a woman is battered every 15 seconds in this country. In the time it took
you to read this, 6 women were battered in one form or another by an intimate. What happens
behind closed doors doesn’t make this issue none of anyone’s business, because behind those
closed doors could be your sister, your mother, your daughter, your friend…even you… This is
how I envision a stop in the cycle. I envision a candle that lights the way for others. I have a
The Essay on Effects Of Divorce Children Parents Marriage
Each year, over 1 million American children suffer the divorce of their parents; moreover, half of the children born this year to parents who are married will see their parents divorce before they turn 18. Mounting evidence in social science journals demonstrates that the devastating physical, emotional, and financial effects that divorce is having on these children will last well into adulthood ...
candle and perhaps others do as well. And that is a start, but imagine what happens when the
flames of two or more candles join. Those flames shine with greater brightness and strength, yet
suffer none in their individuality. So, I have a flame and perhaps you, or someone you know has a
flame. What do you want to do with them? They could mean the difference between life and death
to those who cannot yet make their voices heard.
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