I Am Not Responsible For My Friends Well-Being
I believe that, in most ways, we are fully responsible for our own happiness and well-being. I believe that happiness comes with the knowledge that your mood is completely and utterly in your own hands. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s happiness, just as much as they aren’t responsible for yours. Excepting that you are responsible for your own happiness and understanding that your happiness is in your hands alone, will make both you and your friend happier people. This is why I disagree that I am responsible for my friends wellbeing and happiness.
However, this doesn’t mean that I don’t think that I have to treat her right. Even though her happiness isn’t my responsibility alone, doesn’t mean that I don’t contribute to it. If one day I were to treat my closet friend like I treat my dirty laundry I am sure that it would effect her mood in one way or another. Moreover, believing that your best friend is responsible for your happiness puts a lot of pressure on both you and your friend. I remember all the moments wherein I blamed my best friend for my sadness and madness. From her being in a bad mood and inflicting it on me or me disappointing her because I forgot that it was her birthday. It is in your control to decide how you react to certain situations and how you feel after them.
For example, three years ago, my best friend invited me to her house in France for her thirteenth birthday. She assured me that it would be fine for me to come without my parents because I could sleep at her house. When I arrived she was surrounded by all of her friends, of which I knew none. She quickly said hello to me and then returned to her other friends, who she didn’t bother to introduce to me. Needless to say I was ignored all day. I was incredibly sad and homesick.
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Nowadays we believe that if we are wealthy and have material possessions we would be happy and content with our lives. Is this really the case, how does money and materialistic items help us achieve happiness? If we look at celebrities, athletes, or individuals who possess large sums of wealth and material possessions we believe they are the happiest individuals; that they have everything and buy ...
This is why it is important to not get me wrong. I am not trying to say that if your best friend inflicted obvious pain on you that you have no right to blame them for it. I am trying to say that it is fully your responsibility in which you go around the problem. I had two options that day, one: sulk in my own sorrows, two: try to mesh in with my best friends group, play along with their games and try to have a good time. No one but yourself is responsible for your own emotions. The mere thought of having full responsibility over my own as well as my best friends emotions is a burden that I would prefer not to carry.
Just like Abraham Lincoln once said, “People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” And that is something that I want to live by. In my opinion, blaming anyone at all for your problems is cowardly and pathetic. We aren’t puppets. We are ourselves, and, thus, we should take full responsibility to whatever comes our way.
