IS THAT MY MOTHERS WORDS COMING OUT OF MY MOUTH My favorite phrase during my teenage years was, When I have children I wont treat them like you treat me! Now I am sure every mother on earth has heard their daughters say these words, but at the time I had put all the venom a 13 year old could into those words . I was sure I had deeply wounded my mother and this would send her screaming into the dark Carolina night. I was so wrong. She didnt turn a hair on her permed head. Could it be she had heard these words before? Her single retort would always be Wait until you have children of your own and youll see what I have to put up with. Little did I realize these words would someday come back to haunt me and upset the serene picture I Imagine my disbelief when my own daughter, Angie, and I had our first serious argument. We were discussing her curfew and when she was expected to be home.
No excuses excepted! We definitely had a difference of opinion and the air had suddenly became tense with barely hidden animosity. Just as we both were losing control, I heard my mothers words coming through loud and clear. I looked around our kitchen thinking my mom was paying a surprise visit and had helped herself to our argument. But sadly the I felt lightheaded with shock when I realized it was me saying the words that had echoed around my mind since childhood. I heard myself say, If you live in my house youll do as I say. I had even copied the tone of my moms voice.
I had backslid to a dark place that I had promised myself I would never visit. Visit? I had taken out a lease and moved right in. Suddenly a stranger thing was happening. My sainted (now) mother was right. All the things I had heard her say was for my own good! I had an epiphany right on the spot. Now I was really going to let Angie have it. She needed to hear my words of wisdom and learn to accept rules and restrictions as part of everyday life.
When I was first asked to give a talk on mothers, since it would be mother’s day. I started wondering how Mother’s Day came to be. I was surprised to discover that Mother’s Day has a history longer than Christianity! Ancients celebrated Isis (Mother of the Pharaohs), Rhea (Greek Mother of the Gods), and Cybele (The Great Mother). The worship of these ancient goddesses is similar to the reverence ...
This pious attitude lasted for about 1 minute before the absurdity of the situation set in. I burst out laughing! The impact of my words had lost their intended punch when I lost control. How could Angie take me seriously when I couldnt stop laughing? I truly wish my mother could have been there in that kitchen to see what a little laughter could accomplish. All the ill will had vanished and in its place was disbelief and hilarity. Angie told me later she thought I had snapped and was losing my mind. I had gone from a screaming hissy fit to laughing my head off, in the best Broughton style,and it was a scary thing to witness.
She said she was tempted to slap me like they do on television to bring me back but didnt want to see where that would lead. When I finally gained control of myself, I explained what I felt like when my mom had spoke to me like that. She went on further to say, Mom , I dont know what the big deal is youve sounded like Grandma a million times. Why didnt she just take a butcher knife and cut my heart out? I had been so blind to my parenting skills that I didnt even realize that I had already became my mother. Life really is a big circle and everyone gets a There is a popular saying in todays society, You are a product of your environment. This saying never seemed very relevant until now. I am sure that someday Angie and her children will share the same experiences that we had.
I can only hope that it to will result in laughter and good times as they watch