‘white people have the same central need that black people do. All of us-blacks and whites- need to feel unconditionally loved more than anything else. By far. When we don’t have enough Real Love, we reach out for whatever Mobile Continuous Mixing Plant
form of Imitation Love we can find, and one very common form that nearly all of us use is power. When we’re in pain, we don’t care who we get that feeling of power from either. Anybody will do. We look for characteristics in everybody—flaws, mistakes, defects, just anything different—that will give us some kind of advantage over those people, so we can feel stronger, better, superior.’
‘So if somebody passes by us,’ I continued, ‘who is shorter, or weaker, or poorer, or who limps, or lisps, or smells bad, or dresses poorly, or has an accent, we love that, because now we have one more person who is less than us in some way. These people, simply by virtue of some flaw-or even difference—make us feel better and more powerful by comparison, and we really enjoy that feeling. The more we highlight their flaws and differences, in fact, the more superior and powerful we can feel. We get that feeling of power over people who are different in any way—if they’re gay, if they go to a different church, if they attend a different school, if they come from a different country, if they Commercial concrete batching plant manufacturer trader cost
The Essay on Love, Power, Pain
Three abstract words that I have chosen to provide personal definitions of are love, power, and pain. Even on the surface, these three words seem to have deep associations with each other, which is true. Love is a state of mind that reveals something very true and fundamental about you. Love, like everything else, is a bit ‘selfish’, in that it is an affirmation of a person’s need for acceptance. ...
don’t wear the latest fashion, if they’re poor, whatever—so imagine what an easy target people make for us when their differences are especially obvious: if they’re short, for example, or ugly, or fat, or black. If a white person doesn’t feel loved, he’ll look down on another person for being black as just one of many, many ways to feel less helpless and alone. But it’s not about race. It’s about a lack of Real Love and a desperate need for Imitation Love, in this case power.’
‘I just learned more about racism in two minutes than I’ve learned in twenty years,’ the host said.
How ‘Racism’ Divides Us Needlessly: Problems Within a Race Are Caused by the Parents of That Race
Continuing our discussion from above, I suggested, ‘The reason we need to see what’s really behind ‘racism’ is that racism is dividing us needlessly. We’ve allowed it to become an issue that is distracting us from the only real issue, the issue we have to address before white people and black people will ever live and work and play together in harmony.’
When I talk to adults who are white, the source of their problems is uniformly mini concrete mixing equipment manufacturer price
clear. They’re unhappy because they’re empty and afraid, because they have attempted to fill their empty lives with Imitation Love, and because they’re using Getting and Protecting Behaviors. And white people are empty and afraid because they haven’t received a sufficient supply of Real Love from the time they were small children. In short, unhappy white people haven’t received enough Real Love from the important caregivers in their lives, usually their parents—and sometimes grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, teachers, and others. The lack of Real Love from our primary caregivers is easily the most damaging wound we’ll ever receive, and that wound is the greatest cause of the unpleasant and unproductive feelings and behaviors we experience for the rest of our lives. Period.
