Sadness, confusion, helplessness. My parents are getting a divorce. Screaming, crying and slamming of doors. That is what I heard all of the time.
Growing up, I listened to many arguments. Some about money, others about parenting. I thought parents’ fighting and arguing was normal. Either on their way, or already are, most of my friends parents are divorcing. I really did not think that it would affect me the day I found out my parents had settled on divorcing. Over the next couple of months, I thought the fighting would diminish because their marriage would finally end.
In my mind, a divorce meant that they would be communicating very little, if any, from this point on. But was I wrong! It only became worse. The arguing escalated, and they started to blame one another for every little thing. I can remember when my father became angry with my mother one night. It was Christmas Eve, and I was sleeping in my bed. I was suddenly awakened by blatant noises.
I looked out my door and saw my mother crying. My father was screaming, “Why did you buy another pair of shoes? She has so many shoes.” My mom just yelled back with tears running down her hurt face, ” It’s just a pair of shoes.” My mom had bought a pair of shoes for my sister for Christmas. On the outside, I saw my mother sobbing over shoes. But I knew on the inside it was much more than that. I can remember the smallest things starting the fighting.
I still do not understand the big deal that my father made about a pair of shoes. It seemed that every penny had to be rightfully spent and accounted for. It was always issues concerning money or parenting. I always thought that divorce was a sort of normal thing to go through. I think this more and more these days do to my friends’ families and what I see poured out on TV.
The Term Paper on Custodial Parent Children Divorce Parents
DIVORCE: A BROKEN DREAM Divorce is now part of everyday American life. The effects of divorce are embedded in our laws and institutions, our manners and mores, our novels and children's storybooks, and our closest and most important relationships. Indeed, divorce has become so pervasive that many people naturally assume it has seeped into the social and cultural mainstream over a long period of ...
It has been about a year since their divorce, and the fighting comes and goes. I will never understand all the reasons they split up. Although they are now divorced, they have been spending more and more time together. I think it is because my brother and sister have moved out of town and my parents are lonely. I secretly hope that one day when I will arrive home and experience them sitting on the sofa, like they were when they told us about the divorce. Only this time, it would be good news.
They are getting back together!
