The article that I chose for parenting styles is really interesting. Some things I agreed with, and other things I disagreed with. For example, one of the statements the article said was that, “Research has found that the best adjusted children, particularly in terms of social competence, have parents with an authoritative, moderate parenting style. These parents are able to balance clearly stated, high demands with emotional responsiveness and respect for their child’s autonomy” (Gurian para 8).
I definitely agree with this. My parents aren’t the “get-your-stuff-down-right-away-or-I’m-going-to-ground-you-forever” kind of parents. They kind of just let me go with the flow, and if I mess up, then they’ll deal with me. And I think that parents who just yell at their kids constantly, those are the kids who are always going to be the rebels, because they can’t stand authority. And that’s on their parents, not them.
Another thing that the article said was that “Permissive parents make few demands and their children have been found to have difficulty controlling their impulses, and can be immature and reluctant to accept responsibility” (para 8).
This is so true! I’ve seen so many of my friends get into a lot of trouble because their parents let them do whatever they want. In fact, this is kind of how my parents were when they first had my sisters. They were young and they didn’t really know anything about raising teenagers. So, sisters ended up getting into bad situations and sometimes they got into trouble, and my parents didn’t really care. And then, as they got older, and they had more kids (Bobby and I), they started to realize that we couldn’t make the same mistakes that my sisters did. I guess that’s why I’m so different than the rest of my family.
The Essay on Parents in child’s life
Parents are an integral part of any child’s life. They are his safe haven, his stepping stones and his personal cheerleaders. They are the people who create a person in the first place hence he/she owes their existence to them (Laura, 11). They give a child his name, his characteristics and his personality. They also give him both his negative and positive traits. So, in my opinion it is a ...
“Parenting doesn’t happen in a vacuum; parenting is an interactive situation. Children also have styles, or temperaments, which mesh with their parents’ style, each affecting the other” (para 11).
I think I agree with this. I think that my parents are strict, but I’m not a very “needy” kid and I don’t get in any trouble, really, so my parents don’t really need to be strict with me. It balances itself out, which makes total sense. And another thing that was said in this article, in the same paragraph, in fact is that “Children in the same family often have different temperaments, and parents who have several children are likely to recognize the differences and react differently to each child…parent would probably respond quite differently to an overly active, impulsive child than to a shy, timid child…discourage impulsive behavior in the overly active child but encourage assertive behavior in the shy child” (para 11).
I definitely agree with this. And I think that if a parent doesn’t do this, then they’re getting parenting all wrong. Parents have to realize that no one child is the same as the one next to him/her. We’re all going to act differently in certain situations, and that’s okay. For example, my parents let me stay out later than they let my brother stay out when he was my age, because of the fact that I’m not doing anything illegal, I’ll always tell my parents where I’m going and who I’ll be with, and because I don’t give them any reasons to not trust me.
