Navneet Kaur
Professor Gabrielle zezulka
English 1100 R15
22 July 2013
The Roar of the Tiger Mom
Amy Chua’s essay “Why Chinese Mother are Superior” appeared on The Wall Street Journal in 2011. Amy intends to demonstrate the superiority of Chinese Parenting skills as opposed to western styles. She uses self-experience and comparisons between parenting skills to prove her point. She mentions that Chinese mothers don’t let their children do anything that they want and that Western parents always let their children due extracurricular activities. Chua mentions that most Chinese mothers don’t take into consideration their children’s feelings but on the other side Western parents always consider their children’s feelings first. She states that she knows Chinese mothers expectations because she herself is a Chinese mother. As she describes the Chinese parenting style in all its glory, I disagreed with her claim because throughout the essay shows her audience her credibility on the subject and emotion to help her readers get a better feel of her essay and also use statistics to give the audience an actual view of the research that she has done. Amy Chua explains her elitist point of view as a Chinese parent boasting to have discovered the highest form of parenting. Amy Chua exemplifies her psychotic thoughts that children are garbage unless they are perfect in her eyes
Chinese mothers, according to Chua, believe that children, once they get past the toddler stage, need to be told in no uncertain terms when they have not met the high standards their parents expect of them. Their egos should be strong enough to take it. She also used ethos when she added stories of the life experiences that she went through with her daughters. She gives examples about the methods she took with her own daughters in order to lead them to a successful life. The example that she uses is when her daughter was trying to learn how to play a piece in the piano. She talks about the situation and the methods she used in order for her daughter to learn the piece. She states “I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, and no birthday parties for two, three, four years [20]”. The methods she used would seem a little harsh to Western parents but to her it is the best way for children to achieve in the world.
The Essay on Thbt Chinese Parents Are Better At Raising Children Than Western Ones
With the key terms and outline of our team explained by our captain, both Western and Chinese parenting styles are important in raising children because different styles suit different children. Even though they are of equal significance to various cultures, to distinguish which parents are better at raising children, we will have to look at other parts of parenting. Besides parenting styles, ...
According to Rosin, editor of Atlantic cover story, “Mother Inferior?” the most compelling argument of Chua is that happiness comes from mastery. “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it [5]”. There is some truth to this, of course. But there is no reason to believe that calling your child “lazy” or “stupid” or “worthless” is a better way to motivate her to be good than some other more gentle but persistent mode. There is a vast world between perfection and loser Dom. With her own children, Chua does not just want them to be good at what they do; she wants them to be better than everyone else. On the other hand, David Brooks in his article states that academic excellence should not be main priority when compared with happiness.
According to my point to view, forcing your child towards a specific field is totally wrong. As an elder daughter of my parents, I have a complete experience about this. After 10th grade my friend mother forced her to take non-medical but she wanted to take medical because she was very poor in maths. Unfortunately, her mother pressurised her and she took admission in non-medical. During her whole semester her mother tortures her to get A-grade. But at the end she failed because it was hard for her to pass out maths with good marks. So, here I am completely disagreeing with Chua’s point of view, who forces her children to do everything of her own choice. Let your child free to choose his favourite stream or game to succeed in life. We should teach our children that participation is more important than success. We should aim for our children to be good people, and to live ethical lives that manifest concern for others as well as for themselves.
The Term Paper on Relationships These Children Attachment Infant Mother
Why Have Psychologists Stressed The Importance Of Attachment Behaviours In Development Many theorists agree that social contact early in a child's life is important for healthy personality development. This is the most important relationship of the child development period as it is from this that the child drives its confidence in the world. A break from this relationship is experienced as highly ...
In conclusion, But if that sounds fluffy to you- if you, like Chua, value your children’s success over their long-term happiness and you are inclined to practice Chua’s methods for turning out an Ivy-Leaguer, here is what I want you to remember that Fostering the skills that kids need for happiness is a better bet for their long-term success.
