Harvey Fierstein once said Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself. Only you can define yourself . . . theres something so special about that concept; something so intimate about the fact that only you can control your destiny. You choose what weaknesses youre going to overcome what strengths you will allow to flourish.
We are set into this world, this fast-paced world full of good and bad. There are so many opportunities and yet so many setbacks. Only you can decide whether to find the good in things or the bad. Oh to be a pessimist or an optimist . . . that is the question.
In a way, we are always our parents child, but along with that we are so much more. And yes our friends can influence our decisions, but we were the ones who chose those friends and who still choose to associate with them. Its all about choices and all of these choices create our daily lives . . . What are my priorities? Who are my friends? Where am I going? What are my dreams? And am I going to fulfill them? Big decisions .
. . Who am I going to marry? What are my expectations for my husband? Or small decisions . . . What am I wearing today? Or what am I going to eat? Yes they may seem insignificant, but all those choices and decisions, obstacles, challenges, failures, and accomplishments are defining you whether you realize it or not.
And the point is . . . realize it! Dont wander through life with no direction, no drive, and no aspirations. Enjoy yourself. YOUR SELF.
The Homework on The Right Choice Life Baby Love
No other time in my life has had as much impact on who I am today as the year I turned 16. I returned home to Massachusetts after being a runaway for two and a half months in early July of 1980, pregnant and ecstatically happy about it. I had no idea how the decision I would make in just a few months would affect the rest of my life. October of 1980 I was in my junior year in high school and was ...
Once again only you know how to do that. Whether you take a walk, lend a hand, take a road trip to see an old friend, read a book, share a hug, listen to a thunderstorm. Do it because you want to. So many people blame their insecurities, their weaknesses, because they were victimized. But so much of being a victim lies in the victims hand long before they bear that title. So dont allow that to happen. And in order for that not to happen you must speak out and speak up for yourself. Do not be bullied into that silence. Dont forget however in the midst of all this defining that you cant just think of yourself, for even though you shouldnt accept anyones definition of your life .
. . even though you will never settle with what someone else thinks of you . . . You are defining yourself to others in your actions towards them; the compassion you exercise . .
. whether or not you listen or just hear . . . care or just act. So with all this in mind be thankful for all thats around you; thankful for all the opportunities and exciting choices and decisions you get to make and then watch them shape your life. Even be thankful for the hard decisions and obstacles because if your heart is right, theyll shape your life right.
And always be thankful for the knowledge that was shared with you for you know now that you dont have to settle; and you dont have to and hopefully wont accept that other persons synopsis of your life, and you wont be victimized, you wont be silenced, but will take this chance at life to define yourself. How? Well of course, only you know that.