Emotional Bank Account
We deal with others in a way such as we have our bank account in somebody else heart. If we do something great to the person we add our account to them and if we do something bad to them we withdraw our money from ‘our bank account’. The good relationship can be built if you have a sufficient emotional bank account to your friends and relatives. And please, be ensure if you withdraw your account don’t forget to add additional ‘fund’ to replace it.
Product and Product Capacity
A good product can be deliver continuously if we have a good product capacity. Don’t drain your resources by forcing them to deliver a good product without maintaining their capacity. So the idea of maintaining capability by relaxation, learning, and other renewal effort is a ‘must do’ jobs in order to maintain our product quality.
Habit 1 : Be Proactive
A human was created which such great intention, so that he/she actually can determine ‘everything’ by their own. Proactively is described as an ability to be independent to any circumstances around you. The independency will create a freedom to choose anything in your life but you have to live with the consequences of your choices. An effective person is that a person which focus on their circle of influence using all of his efforts, and by focusing on it he/she will improve it and make it bigger, Those who are not focusing on their circle of influences will end up having a very big circle of concerns but his/her circle of influence will be very small.
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Circle of Influence :
Consist of things that have impacts to you and you can do something about those things
Circle of Concerns :
Consist of things that have impacts to you and you can not do anything about those things
Focus on your circle of influence ! By doing it you will make it bigger
Habit 2 : Begin with The End in Mind
To be effective, a person should have a clear destiny to what he/she want to be at the end of his life. He/She must have a clear dreams. By using this dream, a person can drive any activities that he/she will do in his/her life. The book suggest that each person should have a written personal Vision and Mission statement.
The Book also suggest every personal to broaden the horizon by gathering all information in surrounding so that the way to the achieve their dreams is one of the optimum way to achieve it. And always continuously asking him/her self ‘ Why am I doing to what I am doing now ?
Habit 3 : Put First Thing First
This one of the habits talking about prioritization. Prioritization is very important in everybody life, because it will directly impact every person achievement. The book introduce the 4 quadrant as below :
An effective person, based on this book will try to focus their effort on Quadrant II, because by focusing on that quadrant you will decrease the Quadrant II, and omitting Quadrant III and IV.
There are 2 types of leadership :
1. Goffer : work besides and instruct any steps (supervisory type)
2. Stewardship : a leadership that determine desired results, guidance, measurement, consequences, and resources and inform it clearly then let the team do the best way to achieve all of the objectives
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Habit 4 : Win-Win
A win-win solution can be achieved with high courage and high consideration. A win-win is NOT a compromise but a thoughtful action that really benefit both sides. It is actually ‘the other’ unthinkable solution to any problem or situation we face in day to day life.
The stewardship type leadership can only be achieved if both leaders and members can fulfill the following process : Character — Relationship — Agreement — Stewardship. A Character means the integrity of values on ourselves which usually measured by the maturity (a capability to balance between courage and consideration).
A Win-Win solution can only be achieved if every parties have ‘Abundance Maturity’ by considering that life is not a cake but life is a kitchen that can produce as many cakes as we want. To always put ourselves in this position we have to do the following steps :
1. Always see problem from the other side
2. Always put attention in the key issues and concerns
3. An acceptable result
4. Always look at the possible new option.
Habit 5 : Seek to understand………then to be understood
The key lesson from this habit is ‘LISTEN’. There are 4 types of listening which are : ignoring, pretending, selecting, and emphatic. Listening emphatically is listening by observing data given by the speaker and try to understand the information inside it. It is just like how the doctor diagnose the patient symptoms first before he prescribe. Do not use “AUTOBIOGRAPHY’ mode to response, but rather use ‘re-state conversation.
Habit 6 : Synergize
Using any capabilities to interdependent with others to achieve an outstanding result compare to result done by ourselves.
Habit 7 : Sharpen The Saw
Always renew the knowledge you have by reading, take seminar, listening, etc.