Recognizing my sexuality and becoming aware and familiar with my body has and still is not an easy thing for me to do. One would think that compared to the complex ideas of spirituality and individuality, familiarizing myself with my body would be a walk in the park. Yet with so many negative views and attitudes out-weighing positive ones, doing something as simple at talking about anything sexual brings immediate discomfort to either me the speaker, the listener, or usually both. I actually remember the first ever real female anatomy-related talk I ever had. It was with my friends in about fourth of fifth grade at around age 10. I had overheard my mom telling my dad that my cousin, a couple months younger than me, had just received her first period. Coincidentally, we had just recently started learning about puberty and menstruation at school and I found it incredible to see an example in real life.
Previous to this, all I related to menstruation and puberty was what the book and my teacher showed and said, but now reality seemed to hit that this was very real. Any minute this could start happening to me! Amazed I immediately told my friends, the only people I could really talk to about this whole thing. Speaking about this was the first time we ever as a group really discussed anything relating to sexuality and puberty. We joked after sex-ed class, but never really talked seriously. I looked to my friends as role models since they were older and beginning to develop before me. However, rather than ask my role models questions, I brought up the topic as though it were the latest, juiciest gossip.
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My cousin was in fact in a lower grade, and the fact that she got her period before any of us was then mind-blowing! We knew that girls developed at matured at different ages but once again relating back to the idea of reality vs. the book, we never really saw any real examples. What took me by surprise was how my friends then started to joke about it, making fun of her and bringing up every possible stereotype and mean, weird thing they could think of: EWWWW, she probably smells nowShes going to act different nowLets call her Cherry! Full of questions, I was hurt by the mean things they were calling my cousin but I assumed because my friends were saying these things, that this was the way people just dealt with sexuality. So, taking their response of ridicule and jokes as the answer to my question, I just laughed along with them and came to the understanding that this was just how we should deal with these things. The brief moment we did talk about it seriously was mainly filled with information that I later found out to be even more stereotypes. From this very first puberty-related talk I noticed several important things.
One is that for some reason I was only able to speak to my friends about the situation. Rather than asking my mom or teacher questions about it I ran straight to my friends with the gossip. Alluding to the other thing I noticed that I dealt with the information as though it were gossip. I probably handled this in the manner that I did because of the way I found out about my cousin. My parents were in fact talking about it discreetly and in a gossip-like manner as well, so following their example I did the same when taking this information to my friends. Also, because neither of my parents actually came to me with the information and were talking about it so secretively, I concluded that this was an uncomfortable topic and just something I should not talk about with my parents.
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This was not only true for me, but for all my friends, evident through their large amount of facts about puberty. Everything they supposedly knew as true was just another stereotype, myth, or preconception most likely passed from friend to friend. This one conversation was the beginning of a continuous secretive attitude towards and discomfort with anything remotely related to the male or female anatomy and sexual reproduction. Whether its turning an honest question about sex into a joke because of the way my friends react, or laughing in class when the professor says vagina, the topic just seems to be one that is difficult to be truly comfortable with. But, is that because of my conversation with my friends or is that just the way it is? While this one situation played a key role in how I looked at the topic of sexuality, I can not necessarily say it was the main influential reason why I am and still occasionally am uncomfortable with it. I doubt there is actually any one person that from the beginning of their lives is completely comfortable with their sexual self and talking about their sexuality and body so openly. Perhaps it is just something we all have grown with and come to understand, but it is not something that can not be changed. Fortunately, despite the large influence of negative ideas and views from friends, family, and media, I am still able to learn and become more comfortable with becoming aware.
Ever since that day I found out about my cousin and told my friends about it, I have had many more sexually related conversations. I have encountered more examples that have not only made me aware to the idea that being familiar with my body and my sexuality is important, but also helped me to be more comfortable with the topic itself. It seems that the best way to really understand ones sexuality is much like getting to know ones own body. Personal experiences, self-examination, are what lead to maturity. Maturing this way has also brought me to a level where many of those around me share this comfort with sexuality. While there are still the occasional laughs in class when a certain word is uttered or jokes made with friends, there are also more serious questions, more desires to learn and know the truth rather than just accept the misconceptions.
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I can now talk about a personal problem with a friend and have the comfort of her relating her own personal experience. I can even talk to a friend of the opposite sex and have my questions answered, or answer his questions. At home, my mom has made it clear to me that she is always available for me to ask questions or just talk. Even in the media, shows speak more openly and less comically about sexuality. While I still may have a lot more to learn and understand about sexuality and both the male and female and anatomy, I have at least reached a point where I can see that it is possible to deviate from the immaturity.
