Imagine this if you would as a parent or as a child. Late in the evening you are awakened by your mother returning home from the motel in which your father is staying as a divorce grows near. You are young and do not know about what or why grown ups do things. You havent the slightest idea of what domestic violence is. Seeing your mother crying you ask her, What happened, why are you crying. She pulls the sleeve of her shirt down to reveal her shoulder and upon your eyes you see a black and blue circle just a bit bigger then a grown mans fist.
Now, what do you say to the child How does one go about saying what happened Tell the truth. Explain to the child the reason for it and that it is something never to be done by that child. Domestic violence is a cycle in which the development of a child determines if the cycle continues or not. They are placed into the factors of which keep the cycle going or ending not only by choice but by subconscious inputs from their surroundings.
My views of this may differ from others, but this is my knowledge and understanding from first hand experience. Growing up as a child, I experienced this first hand. It didnt have as dramatic an effect as it may have on other children. There are three general ways in which a child may be affected, but are a wide variety of situations.
I cant predict the future so I cannot tell which one I will fall into, but I am hoping it is the second way. Firstly, the child may take on the psychological effect that it is OK to do since one has seen their mother or father commit the acts. Children may do this cause they grow up as followers of grown ups around them. Sort of like that monkey see monkey do concept. On the other hand they could be doing this cause their parents told them not to. Secondly they ma never repeat this act seeing there is no good in it, which could depend on how the parent discuses it with the child.
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The relationship between a parent and a child is the strongest relationship that could ever exist. However, it is known that parents and children do not always get on very well. Why? Because parents are not single-minded when it comes to their children and are not determined enough to give them the best they can? Or because kids cannot appreciate the things their parents do for them and tend to be ...
Maybe not just how the parent discuses it but a child instinct to be better then their parents may be a driving force. Finally, they may experience it once as a victim or victimizer and forever feel the guilt and be scared inside of themselves and if others can tell. Kind of like experimenting with a new vegetable but more abusively. Children growing up in a violent household will be forever emotionally scarred. the violence does not stop with the last punch thrown between spouses, but instead lingers in a deep emotion in the minds of the true victims, the children. They may be fixated in the childhood stage where they viewed violence as an innocent bystander and mentally, if you will, took notes on both the effects and how to commit violence themselves.
I am not saying that all kids in this situations will grow up and do this in their households. But a majority of them will grow up with lower morals, like low goals, using their parents as role models and not wanting to be better then them, in the sense of being a part of a broken household. Throughout their lives during times of trouble and times of failure they in turn associate this with the broken household experience. A number of kids will in life turn to fit the typical stereotype of bad kids.
The other side of the coin would be those kids who take this experience and make their life better and exceed their parents. The effect of domestic violence is much deeper then a physical one on the victim. An effect on me that I can see for myself is when I wrestle around with my dad, I know his weak spot and it is the spot I go for just naturally and ironically this spot is his shoulder. So as a child, psychologically I was fixated with this area from viewing what I did. Domestic violence if taught and handled correctly can be the learning stone to the next level decreasing the number of incidents, and put a halt in the cycle. But if not addressed it could be a breeding ground for future offenders, and the cycle will continue on or start over depending on how you look at it as the beginning or the end.
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That is a debatable statement, similar to which came first the chicken or the egg The missing piece of the cycle is how they in turn act as adults based on the factors of income and education levels are put into by their morals and the choices & subconscious inputs I mentioned earlier. The income level in which a child receives is based on by a standoff between which path they take, the low morals or their own choice path. The upper class income level has the fewest of the three classes domestic violence situations. Why Some would say the non stress comfort level is present due to having the good life, some would say because they are afraid of losing wealth by divorce due to violence, but maybe inside the parents have high morals, some higher then their parents and therefore dont want to tamper their childs morals by exposing them to violence.
The middle class is between the upper and lower classes in domestic violence. This may be true for your, for lack of better wording, typical reasons. Wanting better wealth, schooling for children costs or bills for the parents conflicting with each other. Since middle class is the most numerous class in America, some of these took the morals as their parents did when they were children. Nice home, car, family typical American dream stuff.
Or they had higher goals and failed for their own reasons. This is the class I am from and the wanting of better wealth was the case in my household. The struggle for income and the stress of having little leads to the domestic violent attaches in the lower class bracket. The unhappiness due to being unable to provide leads to stress which is more then often released through violent acts. The broken home-low morals point I mentioned earlier may be a cause for them being in the low income level. Some people will say it is because of their own failure to make choices and laziness.
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Violence Violence. Mentioning the word conjures up images of assault, abuse, and even murder. In today's American society, violence is more prevalent now the never. Annually, we see violence statistics rise and are left to wonder why. Each year 1 person out of every 40 is the victim of a violent crime. Everyone wants to find an answer a problem that is in great need of solving. But where do we ...
The education levels of abusive families are very similar to the income levels. In which I mean they are more dependent on which path they take, more cases in lower levels, and the more education you have generally the more money you make and vice versa. Domestic violence is highest in households were a parent or both parents didnt finish high school. Because typically they are making less money and are in lower income levels. Or they could have missed some vital teaching depending on how far they made it in school. Cases are smaller in homes where high school was finished but little or no college was taken.
College graduation individuals have the fewest acts of violence in their homes. This is all based on morals set for them as children. How far in education they will go, which in turn places them into income levels, which contributes to domestic violence occurrences. All like a mini-cycle inside a big one. Maybe there would have been a role model for them to follow in school which would guide them away from violence. When it comes to the race factor it has been proven that blacks are committing far many more of these crimes then that of white people, while Hispanic Americans fall in between.
Why does a color of skin suggest if a household commits more or less domestic violence Maybe because when it comes to violent acts they are usually done upon a weaker individual. Well in America white people are the more powerful race so blacks have no other race weaker then them so the violence is carried on into their households. As children maybe they viewed some violence in the house and followed the monkey see monkey do approach. The autobiography of Mary Rowlandson has an instance of domestic violence from an Indian chief on his wife. In this society it was acceptable, but that person would become some big guys girlfriend forever in prison if done today. The knocking of her on her head just cause she wanted to leave ended with her death like does unfortunately to others today.
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the children of these natives viewed this and it was accepted so when they are adults and have their own families they too will do this. Noone was there to teach them otherwise. Domestic violence will continue to exist in this world until the day comes when each child will be taught enough to learn as grown ups not to follow their parents or others footsteps in doing these crimes. If a child is not exposed to this as a child, maybe it wont be revealed as an adult. This domestic violence cycle needs a kink in the chain for it to stop. Whether it starts at the childs development or starts at the adult levels is arguable.
But domestic violence will most likely effect each person at some point in life. it is up to us as American adults to prevent American children from following in our wrong footsteps and shoot for right ones.
