Every little girl dreams of the day she’ll get married, in her mind a handsome prince from a faraway land comes to rescue her from the simpleton life she’s become tolerant of. Not every little girl gets the same rude awakening I got. I learned at an early age the effect of a broken love. Aunt Elizabeth, Aunty Lizzie as I often called her, was the sweetest person I had known. She was my favourite aunt in the world; she was my favourite person in the world.
Aunty Lizzie had lived with us for as long as I can remember, helping us with everything from household chores to homework. She always seemed to know how to make everything fun, even doing the dishes. I was eight years old when Aunty Lizzie got married, it was both the happiest day of my life; I got to be a flower girl. The wedding was beautiful and I was excited, excited for Aunty Lizzie and for her husband uncle tunde. He seemed like such a sweet person.
I never really got to spend much time with him but the little time we spent together he seemed genuinely nice that is until four months after their marriage. Aunty Lizzie and uncle tunde had a nasty divorce. It was one of the worst moments of my life; the divorce impacted my whole family. It felt like everything in the world had changed for us. Aunty Lizzie the once cheery, happy persona became angry and moody depending on the time of day, and it seemed like all the women in my family became the same way.
They became irritable, man bashing women. At that age I couldn’t understand the intensity of the whole incident, but I had heard enough man bashing to steer me away from men; I couldn’t count how many times I had heard them say how men were ‘selfish’, ‘self-centred’ ‘egotistical’ and ‘unable to tell left from right’ For an eight year old girl like myself with thoughts of marrying a handsome prince like uncle tunde, my dreams were shattered, I had become to question the whole idea of getting married.
According to a popular saying,schooldays are the happiest days of your life. Is there any truth in this? Answers to this question are bound to vary greatly from person to person. A person’s answer will depend on how happy the person’s schooldays actually were and on how happy the rest of his or her life has been since. To give a really true answer to this question you have to be fairly close to ...
I had never known what uncle tunde had done but I know it had an effect on my parents relationship, try as hard as they might they couldn’t completely hide the changes from me; I could see the forced smiles, the cold hugs, they were doing a good job of hiding it from my siblings but not me, I noticed it all. My family had changed all because of this uncle tunde he had come into our lives bringing false cheer and left taking every iota of happiness with him.
I didn’t like this uncle tunde, I didn’t like marriage and I surely didn’t like men. This whole new idea of men being ‘self-centred egotistical goats’ affected my relationships as I grew older Marriage is supposed to be filled with happiness, joy, laughter, and love. I would have never thought being married could make you sad, or bring out the evil in you but I was brought to a rude awakening by the divorce of my aunt from her husband.
I had battled with this for the longest of time; my whole idea of marriage was changed and even though at this moment I still don’t know what or if uncle tunde did anything at all, I had secretly blamed him for my failed relationships. I believe every little girl deserves her fairy tale and grown up emotions associated with divorce should be kept from them.