Kelsey Battaglia
Deferential Divorce
Divorce should be encouraged because it prevents children from prolonged suffering of parental conflicts. After rigorous research, and personal experience, I have become very familiar with the many sides of divorce. Though when a couple with a family splits there are many things at stake, the most important factor should be the children. There are many long and short term effects of family disputes; and the children suffer the most for merely being innocent bystanders.
The definition of a family is a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not (Dictionary.com).
Though divorce causes stress to the whole family – if there is conflict in a household, and there is nothing being done to fix it, the children are most likely hurting more than one would think. Living in a home where there is constant fighting is not a healthy lifestyle, and has a very poor impact on the offspring. Many believe that divorce would have a negative impact on children, rather than a positive one, and this is mistaken.
There are many optimistic long term effects that go along with divorce. Not only does the family live in a more peaceful environment, the children learn to be obedient, respectful, and knowledgeable (Peters).
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Due to the fact that the kids can now appreciate family time, they are able to grow and mature properly. Children learn by example, and parents are the most important teachers. It is also found that kids appreciate school more because homework time at home isn’t interrupted, and doesn’t become frustrating (Peters).
When the child/children have one-on-one time with their parents, they create a tightly bonded relationship, and value each other’s’ company. It is common that females grow a close relationship with their mothers and often idolize them for being an independent woman (Jefferson).
Development of the brain, personality and social skills are all established at young ages, and are not easily retaught. Even physical traits such as eating properly, becoming independent, and being active are negatively affected when ones family does not have a strong support system (Jefferson).
Often time’s children are embarrassed of the fact that their parents cannot cooperate, and therefore choose to spend their time socializing elsewhere (Seltzer, pg. 1267).
In addition to benefitting from the divorce, a common misunderstanding is the time it takes for a child to comprehend their new situation. Although the possibility of relocating, and a new weekly schedule is put into play, children are able to cope much easier than it has been previously believed (Peters).
Now that divorce is more common in households, children are not as horrified as one would assume. Doctor Ruth A. Peters claims that, “When children realize that their folks no longer behave in an angry fashion with each other and can share sporting events and school functions without the threat of drama, they begin to relax and to cope better with the two-home situation.” Kids not only appreciate this harmony, they need it.
In some cases of divorce, there are more than just family benefits. A number of circumstances deal with abuse in the home, and divorce gives those in need a chance to escape this mistreatment. As previously stated, kids learn from example and this would teach them that striking other people is tolerable. In most situations the male is abusive toward his spouse and/or his children; as minorities, the mother and child/children leave for their own safety (Peters).
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Commonly, young boys view their father as heroes or role models, and this would influence them to act as their dad has. They too would become forceful, and display these emotions without hesitation (Peters).
Divorce in this case is not only smart, it is essential for the children’s well-being. Separating the youngsters from the corrupt actions of violence gives them a second chance for happiness, and provides a whole new meaning of how a family should feel and behave (Jefferson).
Though children will be upset by the fact that mommy and daddy don’t live together anymore, what they don’t realize are the long term benefits. Especially when the kids are young, they have a hard time grasping the fact that their parent should not be arguing (Jefferson).
Temper tantrums are likely when the child has to leave mom or dads house, which is an example of a buildup of stress. Judith A. Seltzer states, “These stressors, in turn, increase the risk of negative emotional, behavioral, and health outcomes for adults and children” (pg. 1271).
Something should be encouraged if it prevents children of prolonged suffering from parental conflicts. Not only does the child suffer for the time being, they apply what they know to their own lives. Down the road when the child has a family of their own, they reflect how their parents acted, and treat their children how they were treated (Peters).
All in all, divorce has many sides and outcomes. There is no right or wrong solution, and some deal of suffering will occur.
Raymond W. Jefferson. Points of View Reference Center. Ebscohost.com. April 21, 2008. Web. September 28, 2010.
Ruth A. Peters. Today Contributor. Web. September 28, 2010.
Judith A. Seltzer. JSTOR. Library Information and Technology Services. November 2000. Web. October 12, 2010.
Dictionary.com. Web. October 12, 2010.
