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For years there has been an ongoing debate of the stay at home mom vs. the working mom. Which mom has it better? Which child benefits or flourishes more? Whose bond with their child is stronger? Are social skills compromised? In what ways are family structures and or the bond between mother and child suffer if at all? These are just some of the questions that are being asked and debated upon between the two mom titles. With an objective eye and with experience in both realms I will attempt to give some insight into the age old debate of stay at home moms vs. working moms.
Early morning of April 13th2009 my life changed forever and for the best in every way possible. I gave birth to my son. It was a new experience for me I was looking forward to holding him, taking care of him, and just watching him as he grows. Then reality hit. In this day and age and with the economy in the state that it is,there was no way that I would be able to be a “stay at home mom” and afford to take care of the essentials of my child and household. Work was a must. I was going to have to venture out into the work world.
I stayed home with him for the first four months but the need to go back to work was always in the forefront. I knew that it would be hard but it could be done. I wished that I could have stayed home with London for those most formative years to be able to catch his first everything, first word, first smile, first steps, his first time being able to roll himself over. These were the things undoubtedly that a stay at home mom would have a firsthand account of experiencing. As a “working mom” I was bound to hear about some of these things if not all from a third party. I didn’t want to have to go through the woes of finding a trustworthy daycare or sitter. I got lucky,I didn’t have to entrust the care of my son to any strangers my mother in law was available. Not only was I sure he was in a safe environment he would be taught with the same values and beliefs as I have and they would be of the same importance. The stay at home mom bypasses this conundrum, as she knows that there is only herself to instill these things in her child and until he ventures out into the world it’s her safe haven, values and beliefs that will shape his being.
The Research paper on Mom vs. Mom: Work or Stay Home
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Growing up my mom was a stay at home for most of our lives. Once we were in junior high school this is when sheventured back out into the work world. As a stay at home mom she was able to put in those extra hours of helping with homework andhaving a hot home cooked meal every day. I may not get one on the table everyday as a working mombut I try. These are the things that I was use to and wanted to afford tomy son. My bond with my mother could not be any stronger even if I had been glued to her side every day. Even though I’m away from my son 9 to 12 hours a day,five days a week I know we have the same bond even at the ripe old tender age of eleven months. I believe that I’m a well rounded person my social skills are excellent I would say. Just because I didn’t have to go to daycare as a child did not hinder my growth socially. I interacted with other children I wasn’t a social outcast. It may be too early to say the same for my child but he’s friendly enough he plays well with other children. Who says that just because mom works that the bond with her child has to be the sacrificial lamb. Maybe it’s not about the amount of time you spend but the quality time you spend.
As a working mother I definitely find it to be a hard task to stay on top of things and give every aspect of my life the proper attention that it deserves. Spending my days at work then having to come home towork: cook, clean, do laundry and give my husband and child attention it’s very taxing. Stay at home moms, while it is also a hard task, can get some of these things if not most accomplished in her day that a working mom can’t.
The Essay on Hospital Time Home Day
He always loved his gin in the morning, noon, and night; it came to him like water and it was impossible for him to leave home without it. No one could ever sway him from his essential life fluid. It wouldnt matter whether you cried, pleaded, or begged on your two knees, he would not stop. He only started to drink this much when he was 35 and I was about 9 at the time, no one could explain this ...
So the debate continues stay at home mom vs. working mom. I’ve experienced both either directly or indirectlyso I have a view point to both. I don’t believe there to be a right or wrong choice both have their own sets of pros and cons. The age old questions still remain which mom has it better? Which option is the better choice? I personally believe that it all boils down to what you make of it just as with any other situation.
