emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and control one’s emotions and to handle others emotions. We all have different personalities, different wants and needs, and different ways of showing our emotions. Navigating through this all takes tact and cleverness – especially if we hope to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence becomes important. Emotional intelligence is a good topic to talk about when bringing up gender and age because it raises questions about what gender has more emotional intelligence? As you get older do you gain emotional intelligence or is it something you either you or you don’t? Also it gives a debate for IQ v. EQ.
When we are children learning about ourselves we start figuring out our emotions towards certain beliefs, situations, and other people, which helps with learning about expressing your emotions and how to comprehend emotions, “ Children learn to express, comprehend, understand and regulate emotions by exchanging their emotions with parents and coevals. Some of them take control of their own and others’ emotions more skillfully due to big differences in individual abilities and their social world. On the other hand, some children lack adequate skills to interpret emotions for achievement in the social world.” (Naghavi, Redzuan 2011)
Emotional intelligence is defined as an individual’s ability to perceive, control and appraise emotions. Emotional intelligence can be learned, strengthened or be an inborn characteristic. Emotional intelligence is thus the subject of social intelligence that entails the ability to monitor one’s own and other’s thoughts and emotions, to differentiate among them and to apply information in guiding ...
Along the lines with the quote used above it describes how the gender differences are real in how girls are usually more skillful in how they handle others and control their own emotions and boys usually are less likely to interpret and handle others emotions in the way most girls can. “Since girls get mastery over language faster than boys this causes them to be more experienced in precisely expressing their feelings and more skillful in using words to name emotional reactions and replace words for physical reactions than boys. Boys, for whom emotions expression has not been emphasized, are probably unaware of their and others’ emotional states to a large extent.” (Naghavi, Redzuan 2011)
On the other side of emotional intelligence there are big questions being raised between EQ and IQ. To me IQ and EQ are as of equal importance. They both are dependent on one another and that makes for a balance within your intelligence. “Therefore enabling a person to become more aware of how their feelings affect their thinking and how to manage their emotional state will enable them to make better use of their cognitive intelligence. This is highlighted by the example of the fear response activating the fight/flight/freeze mechanism that blocks a person from accessing their cognitive intellectual thinking.” (Maddocks, 2013) As long as emotional intelligence is getting more of a reputation and more people study it than it will always be constructed as a similar and different thing from intelligence, but why differentiate it, think about it, it takes intelligence to handle your others emotions and control your own so is it just really intelligence not emotional intelligence.
In the long run of EI I believe helping more people understand it will bring our world to a better place because we would have a better understanding of ourselves and others and know how to handle others as well s control our own emotions. That also starts with teaching that at younger age through development, education and life in general. “Helping students develop the EI they will need to gain insights into themselves and others, and the moral compass to use it well, helps them develop strong friendships, co-operate effectively, and influence others. Its importance for life should not be underestimated, and there is growing evidence of its importance in education. Goleman reports that a meta analysis of more than 600 studies found ‘social and emotional learning’ programmes in school not only improved student behavior but also led to a “strong benefit in academic achievement.” (King, 2014)
His style is normally focused on the general public. The messages that he tends to create are for those people that have a concern for the world today, and how to make it a better place. In order to read the book, he made it so you would need at least a high school education. Most of the message portrayed in this book was for those that have an interest of the effect of the I. Q. score, and the ...
Emotional intelligence is a huge topic that raises a lot of questions dealing with age, gender and the difference and similarity with IQ. As we get older we get better with emotional intelligence like the quote for example “the older, the wiser.” Also, with gender most girls have a better handle and understanding of their own and others emotions, while most guys hold it in and don’t understand or better words emphasize their emotions. By helping people better understand emotional intelligence will benefit their future relationships, life in general and themselves. Emotional intelligence is an intelligence that should be understood because our emotions are with us forever; having a better grip of them would make our lives easier to handle.
Naghavi, Fataneh, and Marof Redzuan. “The Relationship Between Gender and Emotional Intelligence.” IDOSI Publications, 2011. Web. 6 Mar. 2014. <http://www.idosi.org/wasj/wasj15(4)11/14.pdf>.
Maddocks, Jo. “The New Idealist Magazine.” The New Idealist Magazine. JCA Global, 6 Aug. 2013. Web. 07 Mar. 2014.
King, Duncan. “The Future for Emotional Intelligence | Head’s Blog.” Heads Blog. N.p., 11 Jan. 2014. Web. 07 Mar. 2014. <http://theperseschool.wordpress.com/2014/01/11/the-future-for-emotional-intelligence/>.