Everyone knows the effects drugs have on an addict but what they don’t take into consideration is
the effects it has on the addict’s partner. Being with a drug addict is similar to being an addict yourself.
At first you are convinced they are not addicted to drugs, they just use them to help deal with stress if
you did not put them under so much stress they could stop using at anytime. You do everything to
make their life less stressful regardless of the stress you are putting on yourself. You believe their lies,
no matter how farfetched they are and you lie for them. I believed my ex was going to work every
morning at 2:00 am, he worked for his parents and the store did not open until 9:00 am and the first
employee did not get their until 8:30 am. The worst of the lies I believed was in December of 2006,
he said he was going to Salt Lake with a buddy to go golfing when there was 4 inches of snow on the
ground and that’s not the worst part he left at 10:00 pm by the time they got their to golf it would have
been midnight. I think back now and I don’t think I ever believed his lies I just did not want to admit that
he was leaving to do drugs.
The hardest part of being with an addict for me was lying to protect him. I lied to our parents
because I loved him and wanted to protect him I thought I was doing the right thing. Me and our kids
went to his parents every Sunday for dinner and I would always make excuses for why he was not there.
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I remember one time telling them he was at work installing a stereo and his dad said well after dinner I
will call him and see if I can go help him. My heart hit my stomach and I replied that would be good.
Lucky for me he did not answer his phone when his dad called him.
After two years of being convinced that he was not lying to me, and lying to friends and our families
to protect him I was faced with reality. Me and our kids went to Salt Lake Friday afternoon for my
niece’s birthday party. We had planned on spending the weekend with my sister and my nieces but I
received a phone call at 6:00 am Saturday morning from my ex. He had got pulled over Friday night for
speeding and was booked into jail on drug charges in one second my fears I had tried to hide for two
years became reality. The first thing I thought of is how I am going to keep this from everyone it will be
on the front page of the news paper.
I realized there was nothing I could do to protect him this time, I sat him down and gave him an
ultimatum it’s me and the kids or your drugs you choose? I explained to him I am tired of believing your
lies and lying to protect you I love you but I am not sure if I can ever trust you again. If you agree to get
help I will be there to support and help you work through the tough times but me and the kids are
leaving until you decide what’s more important to you. He called me the next day and said he had a
drug problem and he wanted my help to get clean. He did not want me and the kids to move back in
with him he realized I would never trust him again and how it would affect his ability to stay clean.
We never got back together for the fear that I would always accuse him of lying and still using.
but we have stayed best friends and we do family events together for are kids.