Men and women have been misunderstanding each other for generations, probably since the beginning of time. In the movie “Taming of the Shrew” by Shakespeare it is obvious that most of the men and women in the movie misunderstood each other. In the movie Katharina Minola is a sharp-tongued, temperamental daughter of Baptista Minola a wealthy gentleman from the city of Padua. These characters have reminded me of my friends and some members of my family. They actually start with misunderstanding each other and end up understanding each other more than anyone else. It used to seem strange but after watching “Taming of the Shrew” and grasping the key points I realized how it works. I found that men and women usually misunderstand each other because of their different methods of thinking, but then again these confusions between men and women lead to a better way of understanding each other. I understood that the most important things that help men understand women or vice versa are to not judge a person from his first appearance, be patient and be able to observe, think and then comment.
An important thing in understanding each other is being patient and observing the persons actions and reactions then taking action on it. In the movie Petruchio didn’t give up on Katharina’s behavior, instead he watched what she did patiently and thought about it. After understanding her he acted towards what he observed in an intelligent way. He first observed Katharina’s behavior then started acting. His acts were all to prove to his wife that whatever he says is to be done. He first started when they arrived at his house, the dinner was ready but he claimed that the food was burned and started yelling at his servants and pushing the food around. At that time Katharina was hungry and tried to explain to her husband that the food was well cooked. Petruchio insisted on what he said to prove to her that he doesn’t take his words back.
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He the same thing when selecting Katharina’s clothes for her sister’s wedding. Katharina liked the clothes and adored the hat but Petruchio acted as he didn’t accept them and asked her to wear her old clothes. From this we can see that Petruchio understood that his wife used to get what she wants with force and argument so he used this way to tame her and show her that you don’t get everything you want. In the begging of their journey to Bianca’s wedding he tested his methods to see if they worked. He was talking about the moon when the sun was up, she tries to tell him that it’s the sun but he insists. She agrees although what she said was right:
“And be it moon, or sun, or what you please.
An if you please to call it a rush-candle,
Henceforth I vow it shall be so for me.”
This way Petruchio is satisfied with his wife’s behavior and his wife understood the reasons of his actions. This proves that to understand someone you have to patient and observe before acting.
One of the main things in understanding someone is to not conclude someone’s personality from his appearance. Through the movie “Taming of the Shrew” the people of Padua thought that Katharina is a vicious woman with no sense of emotions and no respect to anyone. From her actions that is what it shows, but is that real? No, and she proved that by the end of the movie when the three husbands called their wives to see who is more obedient. Everyone expected Bianca the gentle woman to be the most obedient but they were surprised when she refused and when Katharina responded immediately. Then Katharina gave a long speech encouraging the other wives to obey their husbands.
These scenes from the movie reminded me of my cousin, she is a sharp-tongued young woman who has a different view of everything in life. We all thought that she wouldn’t be successful in life because of her harsh way of talking to people and her illogical thinking. My cousin and I used to keep away from each other to prevent any long discussions between us. That was because we always argued and had opposite points of views. We were like this since we were young. If I say yes to something she directly says no, if we talk about something she always disagrees. I never used to listen to what she says, I used to ignore everything coming from her. One day my family gathered in my grandmother’s place celebrating new years, we started talking about what is important in life and each of us gave his new year’s resolutions, some of us wanted to get married, some wanted to buy a new car, some wanted a new house, etc. We were all surprised with what my cousin said; “A wife? A new car? A new home? Is that what makes you happy or are those things just to impress other people”. She encouraged us to focus on wanting things that will keeping our self’s as happy as possible and to do whatever it takes to be happy because without happiness life is worthless. No one ever expected that those words would come from my cousin except my younger brother who really knew my cousin well. He is probably the only one who used to understand her. This incident taught me to not judge someone from his first appearance. Instead we should listen carefully to what people say and try to put ourselves in their shoe.
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After this incident I asked my brother how he used to understand her in the past because he was the only one who didn’t argue with her. He told me that it was simple just listen to every word she says and don’t argue until you understand exactly what she says. I found out that we always argued on things that we both agreed on its just that we had different ways of expressing our self’s. When she used to say something I argued and said the same thing but in a different
expression just for the sake of argument. That day at my grandmother’s house was the first time I listened to my cousins words and thought about them carefully, this made me actually understand her and also understand what she intended to clarify to us. Since then I started to listen carefully to all what my cousin says and nowadays I understand her more than anyone else.
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In conclusion I found out that men and women have different ways of expressing their self’s. Women have more emotions when expressing than most men which makes them express real situations differently than men. This doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions in fact they have the same amount of emotions it’s just that they don’t express their emotions, instead they tend to hide them. I also found out that people misunderstand and argue with each other because they keep insisting that what they think is right. If people started to listen to each other and analyze each other’s arguments they will understand each other more. This doesn’t just comply to men and women arguments, they also comply to same sex arguments. Argument is sometimes the best way to understand other people or to make them understand you. Only arguments with a decent purpose tend to result in understanding because people argue just for the sake of it, understanding each other would be impossible.