[quote:43f0672818]Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child[/quote:43f0672818]
The children nowadays are too difficult to educate. They don’t have respect for their parents or for any other adult. For this reason parents don’t know what to do and desperate. Because of this they can’t find other way out than beating the children. This can be very useful in some cases and in a controlled manner, but if you exceed it can cause serious problems in the kid and also in the family. So, is it necessary to beat children to educate them?
First of all, if you educate a small child very toughly, beating him and punishing him, you can have control over him so you can in some way know that he will behave well and that he will learn to have respect for his parents and for the other persons. Also it would be easier to teach him good manners that is an every-father dream, so they find that this way of educate him is the perfect one.
With this treatment, the child also starts creating a tough personality and character. This can be very useful in the future because he can confront difficulties and problems without being afraid or doubtfully. For example, when you see a kid at school which you know has been very loved when small and that passes all day long beside his mother kissing her and all that, you can almost be sure that he will be very shy and no one will have respect for him. All this is because people that were educated by this way have a weak personality, which can be very bad and painful to a grown up kid.
Adam Sandler used bad manners and used profanity in front of his son. His values were messed up. He didn't have any conscience what so ever and he had very few morals if any. His son picked a lot of bad habits from his father; like laughing when someone got hurt, urinating in public, and bad manners. His father also argued with people in front of his son. Adam Sandler's emotion, passion, ...
But in some cases, parents go on beating and beating his kid and don’t realize the damage they are causing to his own son. All of this can cause serious mental and psychological problems in the kid. In some of them, these mind problems, hide behind the tough and hard personality so no one realize of it. As a result of this, children start to have social problems at school, and start loosing friends until they are left alone. “It’s in study after study: Boys who grow up in violent homes are likely to become batterers. They are the schoolyard bullies” And everyone knows what happens to a child with no friends, he can fall into a depress and the better ages of his lives could be wasted because of this.
The consequence that I find more tragic and sorry for, is the fact that the relation between son and parent can be seriously damaged with this. The communication between them is every time more difficult, and obviously the child doesn’t trust in his own father, so clearly they cannot relate between them in a normal way. This makes the son see his parent as a monster or something and feels very afraid of even talking to him.
As a conclusion we can say that beating children in a moderate way and only when is it is strictly necessarily, it is fine. If you exceed on this, you can cause too much damage and problems which can leave the kid much worst than before. And also that in my opinion parents need to realize that unless you associate doing something bad with a punishment, not necessarily beating him, kids will walk all over you and everyone else in society.