I chose to topic to be about teenage marriages because I am interested in how the lengths of marriages have changed over the years. The age and reasons have changed dramatically and teenagers seem to be tying the knot for all the wrong reasons. Some of the reason they choose to do this is because of either religion, many do it due to pregnancy and it’s safe to say few do it because they are truly in love which is what all marriages should be based on. Unfortunately it’s not. If you are a teenager and seriously considering an early marriage, there are a number of potential problem areas of which you should be aware.
First, the problem or adequate financial support is obvious. Although money does not buy happiness, it can create tension which can ruin a happy marriage. Marriage consists of compromise and understanding; many teenagers haven’t fully matured and think they can commit to a lifelong decision like marriage. In my opinion many teenagers are simply not prepared to handle the responsibility.
Pregnancy is a main reason teens get married at such a young age because most men feel they must take care of their responsibility of the child and marry the mother. This should never be the case but it’s always good to know the couple cares that much for the child. Getting married is a big step in someone’s life and it’s about supporting and loving each other. Getting married just because of pregnancy shows that it’s being done for the child only and not about the couple themselves and their own happiness. One of my close friends got pregnant at a very young age, her parents weren’t the happiest at first but decided to deal with issue if her and her boyfriend went and got married before the baby was born. She and her boyfriend refused to do so and are happy they did because they are perfectly happy the way they are now and didn’t want the decision of marriage made for them without wanting such serious commitment. They are considering marriage now that they know they are ready and want it because they are truly in love.
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Although teen marriages seems to be a topic many disagree on, in India for example it is highly recommended in fact almost forced on kids by arrangement. Typically young marriages or any marriage results in divorce, India has great statistics of lasting teen marriages of 90%. Very many people are against teens getting married because it’s believed that more than half of the marriages end in divorce within 15 years which is not pleasing. Also according to the Centre of Law and Society Policy, “Compared to girls who marry later, teenage brides have less schooling, less independence, and less experience of life and work.” Teen brides are also at more risk of being abused and poverty levels.
Why do some marriages work and other’s don’t? Today’s generation live their lives differently. At our age we jump into things, aren’t prepared and don’t think about consequences. A lot of teenagers have never paid their own bills, bought their own groceries, paid rent or anything along the lines of having responsibility but think they can have a fairytale marriage.
The parents of the couple have a lot to do with the marriage and relationship itself. If you don’t have support from any of the parents it may be harder to get through. When you’re young and inexperienced it helps to have older more experienced and mature people to get advice from, trust and lend on.
Another problem which must be faced by those who enter into an early marriage is the problem of personal maturity. While immature and irresponsible actions may sometimes seem funny before marriage, they can become serious within a marriage bond.
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Another potential problem to be considered is the problem of growing apart. This simply means that while two young people in their middle teenage years have much in common, that in many cases, our ideals and goals change as we pass those years and may easily find ourselves married for life to a person with whom we will ultimately have very little in common.
There is an extremely high rate of divorce among those who marry early and this should act as a large caution sign to those contemplating early marriage. Sometimes young marriages work out beautifully and if you decide to marry at an early age you may very well be among them. My best friend’s parents are a great example. They were high school sweethearts and got married very young and made it all the way till today. They created a wonderful family and are living like a fairytale. I know this rarely happens or you don’t hear of couples like this very often but it’s good to know that it is possible to have a successful relationship if you do try and put everything you have into it.
In conclusion there are many con’s to teenage and young marriages which will make you think twice but there are also chances that your marriage will work out and result with a happy ending. I do believe to take chances and if you think your mentally prepared for all that comes with it then you should go ahead and follow your heart.